You need new people in your network, and you don’t know who can help until you start to reach out. This can turn someone into an adult real fast. Moving across the country, away from all friends and family. We were two adults who loved each other dearly and were mother and daughter evolving to become friends. For the first time, I realized we were talking like equals. Do you remember the first time this happened for you? I do. Having an adult conversation with mom.I think about the day President Kennedy was shot in Dallas, the day the Challenger crew perished, September 11 th. We recall exactly where we were, who we were with, and what we did for days afterward. These events are indelibly etched in our memories. I think every generation has at least one of these in their lifetimes. Witnessing a historical event that affects everyone.How we respond to this life changer matters a lot-we could be victim or victor, adult or child. The end of a marriage can turn more than the couple intimately involved upside down. Talk about a new perspective and new priorities! This is one of the big ones for everyone-life is just never the same again. I have no first-hand experience with this one, but I’ve witnessed the life-changing moments in the lives of my brothers, nephews, nieces, step-daughter, friends, and clients. Adult-sized messes to clean up were no fun. I loved the nurturing and mothering part but had to be reminded about the timing for potty breaks. Adopting an innocent creature can be a major undertaking. Learning to discuss rather than argue, and compromise rather than serve up ultimatums is a test of adulthood, for sure. No longer an “I” because we’re now a “we.” Making decisions together takes practice and patience. Taking the next step isn’t for the faint of heart. A sweet time for many of us, myself included. I was 18 and moved into my own apartment close to the college campus. Was it as scary for you as it was for me? The sense of responsibility I felt to be aware of everything else around me made me feel very grown up. Many of us felt pressure to grow up fast. One of the many rights of passage into adulthood. As I remember that now, I try to channel that creativity as I make adult choices. I imagined all kinds of things for my life as I recognized hearts and birds and teddy bears in the white puffy clouds. I would spend hours alone lying face up on the boat dock, while the boys went out fishing. As a teenager, my family had a small vacation cottage on a lake in New Hampshire.
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